I’m Still Alive!

Hello hello hello!

You might have noticed that the blog has been a little bit quiet lately. I haven’t forgotten about you guys, I promise. In fact, I’ve written about a hundred posts in my head, they just haven’t quite made it to paper, so to speak. For those of you still here, thanks for sticking around during my radio silence. I have good reason, I swear.

You might remember that a little while ago, I told you I was heading back to uni this year. I’ve now nearly finished the first semester, and I tell ya, it’s been pretty busy. Balancing work and full time study, whilst maintaining something that resembles a life, has been quite the challenge, but a good challenge.

I have to say, despite the never ending deadlines, I’m really loving being back at uni. I’ve always been a bit of an academic at heart. Most of my work is done online, so I do a lot of it from the comfort of my couch, which is awesome. I could really get used to this “work from home” thing. I’m also lucky enough to have family with houses in beautiful parts of the country, so when I get sick of my lounge, I just drive to one of their places and set up shop for a few days. It’s pretty ideal.

Apart from study and work, there’s been a lot of Netflix watching. I’ve made my way through Riverdale, Girlboss, 13 Reasons Why and I’m sure there are other things I can’t think of right now. What’s everyone else been watching? I need recommendations for my “study breaks”.

So that’s a quick update of what’s been happening with me. I’ll try get some more posts up asap, but if it’s a bit quiet, now you know why! I still post regularly on Instagram, so if you’re looking for me, you can always find me there.

Talk soon!

One Year of This Girl In Her Twenties

This month marks the one year anniversary since This Girl in Her Twenties began. Of course, the idea had been floating around well before that time, but in March 2016, I finally got around to writing that first post, and so, This Girl In her Twenties was born.

One year has flown by, and now I think to myself, why didn’t I just do it earlier? I’ve loved having a space to write about my interests, and to be able to interact with people out there who share my interests. I love that no matter what I write about, there is always someone out there who relates to it. Every time I get a new follower, I’m genuinely stoked, because someone out there actually likes reading my stuff, who knew?!

So thank you to all of you who have visited my page, liked my posts and left comments, and to those who follow me over on Instagram too.

Here’s to an even better second year!

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What’s Happening in 2017

Hello lovely readers! It’s been a bit quiet here on the blog for the last few weeks. I’ve been off enjoying the festive season, and a little bit of sunshine when it comes out from behind the clouds, which hasn’t been happening enough considering it is the middle of summer, if you ask me. My holidays were very busy, spent driving around various parts of the North Island to spend time with family and friends. My holiday is taking a pause for a few days while I am back at work, but next week I am off to Sydney to continue my summer holiday, and I cannot wait!

Before I jet off again, I thought I’d check in, to say hello, happy new year, and give you a bit of an update on whats happening with me, and the blog this year.

Life

After my Sydney trip, it will be time to get back to business as usual, and to reinstate my usual routines. Before the holidays hit, I was doing so well with exercising regularly, so my intention is to get this habit back on track as soon as I am back from holiday.

In March, things are going to change a little bit for me, because I’m going back to uni! The thought is exciting, but also quite terrifying, as it’s been a few years since I was last at uni. As I’ll be crazy busy with studying full time, and still working in my normal job, I’ll do my best to keep updating the blog regularly, but if there are times when you don’t hear from me for a while, you can safely assume I am holed up in my room trying to get an assignment done.

Travel

As mentioned above, I’m off to Sydney next week! I’m looking forward to a warm, beachy holiday, some delicious food, and a bit of shopping here and there.

There won’t be any major trips this year, but I’m sure there will be plenty of little adventures to look forward to! There is still so much of this country I need to see, particularly in the South Island, so exploring my own country will be my travel focus this year.

Blog

Can you believe This Girl in Her Twenties is nearly a year old? I can’t believe it’s been nearly a year since I finally sat down and wrote my first post. I also can’t believe that it took me about three years before that to actually start this blog. But here we are.

This year, I plan to keep posting regularly(ish), with my thoughts on beauty trends, pop culture, travel, life and all that stuff. I’ve got a few ideas up my sleeve already, but you’ll probably have to wait until I’m back from holiday to see these.

As I said above, this year is a big year for me with returning to study, but I’ll do my best to keep the blog updated as much as possible.

That’s enough of an update from me! Thanks to everyone for reading in 2016, here’s to an even better to 2017.

If there’s anything you would like to see more of on here in 2017, comment below 🙂

Remember, if you want to keep up with me between blog posts, you can follow me on Instagram

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A snap from my Christmas Day

Lessons Learnt in 2016

For me, 2016 has been a year of trying to find some clarity, to figure out what my goals and passions are. Looking back on this year, I realize I’ve learnt a few little life lessons, that will be invaluable to me as I go through life. So for all you twenty-somethings out there, here’s what I’ve learnt this year.

You are you, and that’s okay

This one is so important. I often find myself second guessing my feelings, opinions, and actions, based on what I think others would do in my situation. But the thing is, only I feel the way I feel, and like the things I like. No one else is like me, and therefore I shouldn’t judge myself against others, because they are completely different individuals, and making comparisons in entirely pointless. To quote a popular phrase of 2016, “you do you”.

See your problems as challenges

This is something I have only recently learnt, and and it has completely changed my outlook. There are so many hurdles we have to overcome all the time. But rather than seeing them as barriers stopping us from getting results, maybe we should be looking at our problems as challenges, as things that we can work through bit by bit to get to our goals. Seeing my problems as challenges has really helped me to be more proactive at making things happen.

Things will happen exactly when they are meant to happen

This is something my mum told me a few years ago, and the older I get, the more it rings true. For me personally, I can spend a lot of time thinking about what I “should” be doing at this moment in my life, but not really moving forward, because I’m just not ready to take that leap into something yet. I’ve learnt that if you don’t feel ready to do something, then don’t force it. Because when the time is right, you’ll leap straight into it, and be ready to fully commit.

Don’t worry about the future so much

This one ties in with the point above. It’s important to make plans, and have an idea of what you want in your future, to give you something to work towards. But this shouldn’t take over your life. If you want a new job, then work towards that. If you want to save for a house, then do that. But just remember, to enjoy now, and live in the moment too.

Nobody really cares about what you are doing

Okay, well maybe that’s not entirely true, but what I mean is that we spend a lot of time worrying about what other people are thinking about the decisions we make. But really, how long do you spend agonizing over the decision your friend made to leave her job? Do you spend your whole day talking about that person on your Facebook feed who recently decided to ditch her teaching career to become a pilot (or something like that)? Probably not. If anything, when I hear that someone has made a ballsy decision, no matter what it is, I usually think about how brave and awesome they are for taking a leap of faith, even if it’s not something I would personally do.

So those are a few little life lessons that I’ll be taking with me into 2017, I hope some of you out there will find these useful too.

Guide To Goal Setting

In the last few months I’ve been making a real effort to get serious about setting achievable goals. I feel like I’ve spent a lot of time over the last few years thinking about where I see my life going, without feeling like I’ve made any real progress. So, after making this decision to make a conscious effort towards my goals, I’ve actually made some real, tangible progress. Below are a few steps I’ve taken to become more clear about my goals:

I wrote my goals down

This is such a simple task, but I can’t tell you how valuable this has been. Having my goals written down somehow makes me feel more of a commitment to them, and makes me feel like I have more of a clear focus. It’s even been scientifically proven that those who write their goals down are more likely to achieve their goals than those who don’t.

I talked to a friend

A friend and I recently decided to become accountability buddies, which basically means we talk to each other about our goals and check in with each other from time to time to see how we are going.  Talking to someone about what you’re working towards somehow makes you feel more accountable, but also gives you that support you need to keep working towards your goals.

Attended a goal setting workshop

Kikki K does these awesome Goals workshops (and many others). I went along with a friend, where we were given a beautiful Goals journal, and were encouraged to think about our core values, our goals, and working towards these. This was a really worthwhile workshop, and if you are struggling with goal setting, or just looking for a bit of inspiration, I would totally recommend going along if you have a Kikki K near you. Plus there is wine 🍷

Set up a vision board

I haven’t actually done this yet, but as soon as I have a free weekend at home, I’m going to get started on this little project. Apparently this is a really great way to stay on track with your goals. They also just look really pretty and will be a fun DIY project.

I’m happy to say that by just doing the few simple things above, I have so much more clarity on my goals for the next few years, and am have already made so much progress in the space of a couple of months.

So that’s a little update on what I’ve been working on lately. If any of you out there have some handy tips on achieving your goals, please let me know in the comments!

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Get To Know Me – 21 Questions

Today I’m doing a “Get to Know Me” tag, because it’s always good to get to know a bit more about the person behind the blog. Thanks to Life Journey With Liyana for inspiring me to do this post. She did a similar one over on her blog recently. I decided to do a slightly different tag, and found the questions below on Ysis Lorenna.

1. Are you named after anyone? 

Not that I know of, I think my mum just liked the name.

2. When was the last time you cried? 

Balled my eyes out last weekend watching the Gilmore Girls finale. Hopefully you won’t be bombarded with my constant Gilmore Girls mentions now that I’ve finished all seven seasons. Lol jk the new season is coming out in two months..

3. Do you have kids?

No kids. Have just been given some plants though, so this will be my chance to see if i’m cut out for parent life.

4. If you were another person, would you be a friend of yourself?

Definitely, I know we would share the same taste in TV and movies.

5. Do you use sarcasm a lot?

Never (all the time).

6. Will you ever bungee-jump?

Its not something I’m super keen on, but I live in New Zealand which is pretty much the bungee capital of the world, so you never know.

7. What’s your favorite cereal? 

A nice toasted granola/muesli.

8. What’s the first thing you notice about people?

Their smile I think.

9. What is your eye colour? 

Hazel.

10. Scary movie or happy endings?

Happy endings always.

11. Favorite smells? 

Rain or frangipani. Both at the same time is even better.

12. Summer or winter?

Summer summer summer.

13. Computer or television?

Television.

14. What’s the furthest you’ve ever been from home?

The UK, which is about a 24 hour flight from home.

15. Do you have any special talents?

No, not really.

16. Where were you born?

New Zealand.

17. What are your hobbies?

Blogging, listening to music, going to concerts, binge watching tv shows, walking, yoga. The list could go on and on.

18. Do you have any pets? I have a cat that lives with my mum.

19. Favorite movie?

Serendipity.

20. Do you have any siblings?

Yes.

21. What do you want to be when you grow up?

Happy. Cliche I know, but as I get older, I’m realising that happiness is not actually a given.

 

Okay that’s it, I hope you all enjoyed learning a little more about me. If anyone else does this tag, leave a comment below with a link your blog.

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Favorite Things Part 2

I did a Favorite Things post way back in April, so I thought it was well time for another one. Below are a few things that I’ve been loving lately.

Spring

Winter is almost over, Spring is moving on in, and I’m so happy about it. It’s getting a little warmer, the days are getting longer, but most importantly the Spring lambs are out, and they are just so cute. My motivation to get out and exercise at my local park (which is also a working farm), has never been higher. Here’s a picture of one of my new friends.

Ripped Jeans

Okay, I’m a bit behind the times, but this weekend I bought my first ever pair of ripped jeans, and I just love them. They just add that little bit of effortless edge to an outfit.

Married At First Sight USA

Have you ever watched this show?? I always thought it was just another mass produced reality show, but when I stumbled across it whilst eating dinner in front of the tv the other night, I became positively intrigued. In the episode I was watching, the couples were moving in together, and I couldn’t help but question how you could possibly move in with someone YOU JUST MET. But apparently it actually works out for some of the couples. Totally fascinated. I’ve got to find more!

Garnier Micellar Water

I was given a bottle of the Garnier Micellar Water a little while ago, and it’s made my night time routine so much easier. This stuff literally takes my makeup off in one swoop, and it leaves my face feeling super clean. If i’m wearing full eye makeup, I might also need to use a bit of makeup remover too, but day to day, I generally just wear a coat of mascara, so this works perfectly for me.

Climbing Trees

I spent my Sunday climbing trees. Or to be more specific, I spent the day doing a high ropes course way up in the trees. It was both physically and mentally challenging, but also so much fun. If you live in Auckland, I would highly recommend checking out Tree Adventures


What have you been loving this week?

Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself

In the words of Jess Glynne, “don’t be so hard on yourself”. I’ve realized lately, that I can be incredibly hard on myself when it comes to my life and figuring out what I want to do with it. A quick Google search of the phrase “twenty something” is enough to know that I’m not the only one feeling this way.

See, I’m 26 years old, and I don’t have it figured out yet. I’m not even close. In fact, I feel even further away from having the answers then I did five years ago. And I feel like I should I have it sorted out by now. I should know what my ideal job is, and I should be doing it. I should have traveled the world. I should own a house. I should have a clear plan. But I don’t.

I’m so focused on all the things I haven’t achieved, that I forget to take a step back and look at what I have done. Five years ago I didn’t have a university degree, and my work mostly consisted on babysitting and retail. I hadn’t traveled more than a few hours away from where I lived, I had never traveled alone, and I hadn’t lived away from home.

Now, I have a post graduate degree. I have had four years of experience in jobs related to what I studied. I have traveled far and wide on my own, have ticked off a significant portion of my bucket list, and more. I have moved out of home, and have made some life long friends along the way.

And when I look at it like that, it doesn’t seem so bad. Five years ago, I could have never imagined that I would do all that I have done so far. Things happen as and when they should. And maybe in five years from now I still won’t know exactly what I’m doing with this life of mine, but I’m sure I’ll have added a few extra things to that list above.

So tonight, all my fellow twenty somethings, let’s all take a moment to look at what we’ve achieved, rather than focusing on what we haven’t done yet.Stop being so hard on yourself.

I’ll leave you with the quote below, which seems pretty fitting to this post.epicurus

 

 

 

Guide To Surviving Winter

You might have figured this out from my previous posts, but winter in New Zealand really isn’t my favourite time of year. It’s constantly freezing, it rains a lot, and there are absolutely no public holidays between June and October. It’s a long haul.

But it’s not all doom and gloom. These cold days give me the opportunity to take a step back and enjoy some down time at home, without feeling like I “should” be out doing something.

So what have I been doing to keep myself entertained?

Reading

I’m ashamed to say I don’t read near as much as I used to. When I have downtime, I find myself choosing to watch a show rather than read a book. Reading is something that I have been making a real effort to prioritize this winter, even if it is just fifteen minutes each night before bed.

My favorite book I’ve read lately is Me Before You, which I really enjoyed. It is a sad one though. Check it out here.

Blogging

I’ve really been enjoying working on this blog, whether I’ve been creating content, thinking of ideas and reading other blogs, or working on the layout. It’s been cool to have a new project. I’ve even created an Instagram specifically for the blog, where I’ll post pictures of what I’ve been up to, and pretty, inspirational things. You can follow me @thisgirlinhertwenties.

Cooking and baking

I’ve blogged about my adventures in the kitchen here and here. I’ve been working on creating wholesome and healthy dinners more regularly, more tasty and nutritious breakfasts, and also baking the occasional delicious treat.

To be honest, in the past, I often felt like spending time in the kitchen is a bit of chore. But I’ve actually discovered that if I just potter around the kitchen, put some music on and take my time, it can actually be quite enjoyable.

This weekend alone I baked a bacon and egg pie, made some toasted muesli, and baked some brownies! That’s me sorted for breakfast, lunch and dinner for the next few days.

Binge watching

Of course I’ve spent more time than I should binge watching Netflix. I’m kind of obsessed with re-watching Gilmore Girls right now, and cannot wait for the new season to come out. November 25th is marked in my calendar.

Escaping to a warmer climate

There is no better feeling then trading in the freezing weather for 30 degrees sunshine. You can read more about my recent trip away here.

So that’s what I’ve been up to this winter. What do you do to make the winter months more enjoyable?

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Those Little Moments of Happiness

When we talk about “finding happiness”, I think we see it as a long term goal, or a project. This great big thing that we are trying to achieve. Like, when I finally get that job I love, or move to that new city,  I’ll be happy. But the thing is, life is never perfect, and it never will be. I might get that dream job, but that doesn’t mean the other aspects of my life will be perfect. Life is forever changing, and forever growing, and what I think will make me truly happy today, may be different tomorrow.

I was once watching an episode of One Tree Hill, and one of the characters said the following quote:

“Happiness is a mood, not a destination”

That pearl of wisdom has always, always stuck with me. But sometimes I forget, and I focus on the bigger, long term picture, rather than the small moments.

Today I went out for a walk. The sun was shining, my current favourite song was playing through my headphones, and I had just had a really nice coffee date with my sister. As I walked through the park, enjoying the sun, I noticed that I had this massive smile on my face, for no particular reason. I realized that in that moment I was feeling so much happiness, that it was literally causing me to have this massive uncontrollable smile. Nothing major had happened or changed, it was just a moment of happiness.

I wished I could stay that way forever. But, you can’t. In some moments you will feel pure happiness, and in some moments you won’t. It’s those little moments that we need to strive for, and appreciate them when they do happen. Yes, we should keep working towards our big picture goals and ambitions. But we need to remember that we are not going to just one day arrive at our destination of happiness, and stay there for ever. We need to enjoy those little moments of joy along the way. There will be happy days, and sad days, and everything in between. And that’s okay.

So for today, I’m taking note of all of the little things that bring that happy smile to my face, and do more of that. For me it’s walking by the water, or in the park, listening to music, and drinking coffee with my nearest and dearest.

What is it for you?

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